It’s been four fabulous months of Unconditional Body Beautiful. This month, the self-love journey continues. In this next installment we’re focusing on one of my favorite parts of the body– the onion, the badonkadonk, the nalgas, the booty. Yes, my lovelies, today we’re chatting derrière.
The derrière is one of the most popular body parts out there. If your body was high school, your derrière would be prom queen. It’s shapely curves have inspired artists (Botero), designers (Apple Bottoms) and musicians (Sir Mix-A-Lot, Destiny’s Child, Queen) to name just a few. But like most trendy love stories, you will see the focus jumps from big booty obsession à la Niki Minaj to small booty supermodel love à la Gisele Bündchen. In the end (see what I did there?) what matters is not what’s “in” when it comes to the latest booty trend, but that you love the booty you were given– regardless of its size or shape.
“Cultivate your curves – they may be dangerous but they won’t be avoided.” ― Mae West
My booty has never and will never be small. It’s voluminous presence is a gift from my African heritage.
When I was younger I was embarrassed by the size of my booty because of the unwanted attention it received. For me, it took some time to get comfortable with the maturing of my body from little girl to young woman. I was actually quite embarrassed by the looks and comments received by my developing curves. I didn’t gain an appreciation for my derrière until I was in college.
Although the appreciation was now there, the realities of “big booty problems” became clear. What big booty problems you ask? Well, how about trying on the same skirt with a girlfriend only to discover the fit of your skirt was “off” in the back because it was raised several inches than the front due to your voluminous derriere. Or never getting a perfect size jean fit. Fits your hips and booty just right, but it’s about 3 sizes too big on the waist– thank goodness for boyfriend jeans and good tailors. And the catcalling, *insert major side eye here* I live with my big booty 24/7 therefore I don’t need to be reminded of how monumental it is or certainly not be told of its “juiciness” — it’s my body you’re talking about not a damn burger! Keep walking.
But pervy catcallers aside, I have great appreciation for the curves my derrière bestows on my body. I love the way dresses skim its silhouette and the way a great pair of jeans/pants sit just right and embrace its majestic shape– like a queen on her throne. It’s by far one of my greatest and favorite assets.
So, no matter how big, small or in-between your derrière is, it’s time to embrace it because regardless of how it’s portrayed in the media, it’s part of your body, not a fashion accessory or a trend. And don’t preoccupy yourself with fitting into society’s mold, because molds are meant to be broken. Until next time, my lovelies– remember to be kind and loving to yourselves and each other,
Unconditional Body Beautiful is a self-love series created by Rebequita Rose — “It is a year-long collaboration which I created-slash-founded, and I will be doing this with many other bloggers…We will focus mostly on discussing our bodies more than on fashion, but at the same time we will fuse the two together.”