Unconditional Body Beautiful: Part Five: MY DERRIÉRE

It’s been four fabulous months of Unconditional Body Beautiful. This month, the self-love journey continues. In this next installment we’re focusing on one of my favorite parts of the body– the onion, the badonkadonk, the nalgas, the booty. Yes, my lovelies, today we’re chatting derrière.

The derrière is one of the most popular body parts out there. If your body was high school, your derrière would be prom queen. It’s shapely curves have inspired artists (Botero), designers (Apple Bottoms) and musicians (Sir Mix-A-Lot, Destiny’s Child, Queen) to name just a few. But like most trendy love stories, you will see the focus jumps from big booty obsession à la Niki Minaj to small booty supermodel love à la Gisele Bündchen. In the end (see what I did there?) what matters is not what’s “in” when it comes to the latest booty trend, but that you love the booty you were given– regardless of its size or shape.

“Cultivate your curves – they may be dangerous but they won’t be avoided.” ― Mae West

 My booty has never and will never be small. It’s voluminous presence is a gift from my African heritage.

When I was younger I was embarrassed by the size of my booty because of the unwanted attention it received. For me, it took some time to get comfortable with the maturing of my body from little girl to young woman. I was actually quite embarrassed by the looks and comments received by my developing curves. I didn’t gain an appreciation for my derrière until I was in college.

Although the appreciation was now there, the realities of “big booty problems” became clear. What big booty problems you ask? Well, how about trying on the same skirt with a girlfriend only to discover the fit of your skirt was “off” in the back because it was raised several inches than the front due to your voluminous derriere. Or never getting a perfect size jean fit. Fits your hips and booty just right, but it’s about 3 sizes too big on the waist– thank goodness for boyfriend jeans and good tailors. And the catcalling, *insert major side eye here* I live with my big booty 24/7 therefore I don’t need to be reminded of how monumental it is or certainly not be told of its “juiciness” — it’s my body you’re talking about not a damn burger! Keep walking.

But pervy catcallers aside, I have great appreciation for the curves my derrière bestows on my body. I love the way dresses skim its silhouette and the way a great pair of jeans/pants sit just right and embrace its majestic shape– like a queen on her throne. It’s by far one of my greatest and favorite assets.

So, no matter how big, small or in-between your derrière is, it’s time to embrace it because regardless of how it’s portrayed in the media, it’s part of your body, not a fashion accessory or a trend. And don’t preoccupy yourself with fitting into society’s mold, because molds are meant to be broken. Until next time, my lovelies– remember to be kind and loving to yourselves and each other,


Unconditional Body Beautiful is a self-love series created by Rebequita Rose“It is a year-long collaboration which I created-slash-founded, and I will be doing this with many other bloggers…We will focus mostly on discussing our bodies more than on fashion, but at the same time we will fuse the two together.”


On the 18th of every month we will each publish a new post discussing that month’s theme (body part), so be sure to keep an eye out for the hashtag on social media for some wonderful posts and body love inspiration.

12 thoughts on “Unconditional Body Beautiful: Part Five: MY DERRIÉRE

  1. Isn’t funny how the things we may not love about ourselves our those that other may envy! I am like Vanessa, always wanted a better booty, one that was more rounded and shapely….instead I was blessed with a good set of boobs. Which growing up also got unwanted attention and made it a pain to find clothes that fit right! I never felt it was a blessing but more of curse. But alas we got what we got and YES its time we love all of it and appreciate our bodies! ❤

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    1. So right Vero! You have a booty, you want different legs…you have legs, you want different boobies. It’s crazy! Ugh, nothing like viejos verde to make you feel uncomfortable in your blossoming figure.
      YES to ❤ ourselves, and our bodies!


  2. Such a great post, and a cute butt if I may say so. 😉 I have a sizeable badonkadonk, and as a young woman I was embarrassed about it, but now I embrace it. I joke it has its own field of gravity as when I walk past things, they fall to the floor. 🙂

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  3. “My booty has never and will never be small. It’s voluminous presence is a gift from my African heritage.”

    It is nice that you embrace your body and credit your African heritage for it. I often read that Latinas (many, if not most) are widely celebrated for having an ample booty, but rarely are their African roots acknowledged. So I appreciate your comment. By the way, I am white.

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    1. Hi John! You make a great point, I think an important part of learning to truly love yourself is embracing and celebrating EVERY part of you–and that includes your heritage as well as culture. Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

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  4. “I think an important part of learning to truly love yourself is embracing and celebrating EVERY part of you–and that includes your heritage as well as culture.”

    I completely agree, Zadry. I think embracing your heritage includes embracing your natural features, regardless of origin. Embracing your natural-self projects confidence and that can attract those who appreciate it. Just as you embrace your African features, I am sure your husband found that attractive. I hope you don’t mind me saying that.

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