1K Celebration

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Today’s post is dedicated to you my lovelies. I want to say THANK YOU to each and everyone of you for all of your love and support. Last week Curves à la Mode reached 1000 followers on Facebook and I’m beyond happy…queue the music!

Today as a thank you to all my awesome Facebook followers I’m holding my first giveaway from one of my favorite plus size brands– SWAK Designs. It’s for a $50 Gift Card to shop their online store and my lovelies, they have some really cute pieces you can treat yourself to!

You can scoop up one of their fun new summer arrivals, like the Printed Gaucho Pants I’ve been drooling over.  Pair it with their black Pretty Cami and a hot pair of espadrilles…boom! You’re ready for a stroll down Key West with a Caipirinha in hand.

Or how about Nadine? With a pair of black skinny jeans, a fuchsia clutch & pumps…ka pow! You’re ready for a night of salsa dancing on South Beach.

But since I am a maxi girl through and through my eye automatically went to Marissa first, her black & white print with splashes of sunburst makes her the perfect companion for any beautifully warm Miami afternoon.

This dress drapes my curves like a good maxi should…and I feel like an absolutely goddess!

To treat yourself to a little SWAK Designs be sure to follow the instructions below. A random winner will be chosen via Rafflecopter in 2 weeks.  I love you all very much & Thank You again for riding along on this journey with me. You are all amazing!


Until next time my lovelies & remember sharing is caring, so don’t forget to share the contest with your besties. Good luck to all of you!



Unconditional Body Beautiful: Part Six: BODY HAIR

As women, we’re expected to be plucked, shaved, bleached and waxed to meet feminine beauty standards. And although there is no right or wrong when it comes to the keeping-of or stripping-of our hair, the problem arises when the preference we embrace is the opposite of society norms, which translates into a strip down of our femininity. Some people feel everyone HAS to conform to “traditional gender roles” meaning it’s okay for men to wear their natural hair with pride but we women must be trimmed to a shiny new version of ourselves– as if we were still 10-year-old schoolgirls.

A body hair revolution has begun and women have started to realize that indeed there is no wrong or right way to coexist with your body and the natural hair that grows on it. Personally, most of the time I enjoy having my legs hairless, but I also admit that maintaining them that way can be a tedious task. The contortion-like moves one must complete in order to perform a perfect shave are mind-blowing. As we speak women around the world are propping legs on top of bathroom sinks or bathtubs à la Cirque du Soleil in the name of beauty.

The definition of what is considered beautiful or feminine is changing and I think it has a lot to do with the restrengthening of feminism. The fact that we’re realizing we can embrace our natural beauty as it is with or without hair is causing an explosion of female body empowerment worldwide. Right now, female armpit hair is making a movement. And women across the globe, including some celebrities, are allowing their armpit hair to grow out and rocking it freely both au naturale and colored like nobody’s business.

That’s the important part here, choice. So don’t feel pressured to conform because you feel you have to meet society’s beauty standards, but instead know that you are free to define beauty as you see fit. So let your hair flow à la Fabio, or re-create your best hairless chihuahua look or if you want to do both. At the end of the day, there is no right or wrong way to love your body hair.

Until next time my lovelies– remember to be kind and loving to yourselves,


Unconditional Body Beautiful is a self-love series created by Rebequita Rose“It is a year-long collaboration which I created-slash-founded, and I will be doing this with many other bloggers…We will focus mostly on discussing our bodies more than on fashion, but at the same time we will fuse the two together.”


On the 18th of every month we will each publish a new post discussing that month’s theme (body part), so be sure to keep an eye out for the hashtag on social media for some wonderful posts and body love inspiration.
 For more #UnconditionalBodyBeautiful inspiration be sure to check out these wonderful blogs:


Homemade Beauty | Sugar & Olive Oil Scrub

I’m completely obsessed with luscious skin and I hate it when my skin gets dry or ashy– I’m looking at you beach. Part of my daily beauty regimen is lathering my body with skin oil until I’m glowing like a golden mocha phoenix. So of course whenever I read about a homemade beauty recipe that promises soft and glowing skin– I’m all over it!

A few years ago I ran across an article on beauty secrets from around the globe. One of the tips was a homemade recipe from Greece which included 2 simple ingredients: Sugar & Olive Oil. Of course, I jumped on it asap and it has become part of my go-to glowing skin routine– with one special twist I’ll share with you today.

Step 1.

You’ll need a container for your mix and a spoon for stirring. I’m thrifty so I keep clean used containers (like this one) to recycle them anytime I want to make this Grecian sugar scrub.

As far as ingredients, you’ll need granulated sugar, olive oil, and vanilla. Now I’ve never used vanilla, but I’m sharing this with you so I’m making it special today. Also, I only make a one-time use batch, I’ll explain why later on so we’re not going to make a huge batch of this.

Step 2.

Add the granulated sugar in the container, set aside the vanilla while you warm up the olive oil on the stovetop– that’s my special twist. This is a warm sugar scrub, trust me you’ll love it. And no! do not use the microwave to heat up the olive oil, trust me I’ve tried it and it didn’t go to well. So safety first, put the oil in low and we’ll let it warm up for 5 minutes. Remember we’re putting this on our skin so we’re looking for lukewarm.

I’ve tried the recipe both cold and warm, and for my taste the warm recipe gives better results. Which is also why I make a one-time use batch.

Step 3.

After our olive oil is warmed, mix it in the container with the sugar and add on the vanilla. Stir so that it’s nice and pasty, feel free to add a little more sugar so it’s not too liquidy. You want it to be thick enough to make a nice paste for better results in the shower.

And voilà! We’re ready to hit the shower.

Now, to get the best results use it in the shower on dry skin. Scrub your entire body, don’t forget your rough areas like elbows and knees. Give special attention to your feet, but be careful since the olive oil can make it slippery in the bathtub. Oh, and while we’re on the topics of bathtubs…be sure to rinse it well afterwards to remove the sugar and olive oil residue, it’s very slippery– don’t say I didn’t warn you.

Final results, amazingly soft and smooth skin, no need for after shower lotion here ladies. The vanilla will definitely become a staple in this recipe– I’m loving the scent. Before adding vanilla I would definitely have to dab on some perfume afterwards, because the skin would be perfection, but I always smelled like an Italian salad.

Well, I hope you enjoyed my secret to beautiful glowing skin. Let me know what you think? And feel free to share any of your homemade beauty recipes– remember sharing is caring!

Until next time, my lovelies,



7 Female Voices Empowering Women Thru Social Media

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”  — Coco Chanel

 I love to see women empowering other women and today I’m going to share with you 7 of my favorite female voices taking a stand for womanhood on the web. These women are using social media to share much more than selfies and fashion posts, they’re using their voices and the power of social media to make strides toward female empowerment and body positivity.

1. Rupi Kaur

Rupi Kaur is a spoken word Sikh poet specializing in verses, prose and poetry. I first came across her work on Facebook, and was immediately blown away by the power of her words.

She combines most of her poetry with her own sketched drawings. Rupi’s words are raw and inspiring which makes them hit home. They touch something in you, as beautiful writing always does. Four months ago she posted the photo below– showing her pants and sheets stained symbolizing menstruation and it’s significance in the cycle of life.

i bleed each month to help make humankind a possibility. my womb is home to the divine. a source of life for our species. whether i choose to create or not. but very few times it is seen that way. in older civilizations this blood was considered holy. in some it still is. but a majority of people. societies. and communities shun this natural process. some are more comfortable with the pornification of women. the sexualization of women. the violence and degradation of women than this. they cannot be bothered to express their disgust about all that. but will be angered and bothered by this. we menstruate and they see it as dirty. attention seeking. sick. a burden. as if this process is less natural than breathing. as if it is not a bridge between this universe and the last. as if this process is not love. labour. life. selfless and strikingly beautiful.” ―Rupi Kaur

Instagram deleted the photo saying that it violated community guidelines but with the perseverance of Rupi, her IG followers, fans, and the attention the story received in the media Instagram shortly reinstated the two photographs deleted from her account– social media for the win!

You can follow Rupi’s inspiring work on Instagram, TwitterFacebook and Tumblr,  Her collection of poems are available in her book, “milk and honey“.

2. Melinda Alexander

Melinda Alexander is a fashion stylist, mommy to the cutest little boy and a fierce feminist– as Melinda describes it: “I do Women’s Work”!

And yes! she does indeed do women’s work. Melinda’s posts are honest and relatable. She shares  her life, both ups and downs with complete transparency and in a time where everyone’s lives are always so perfectly choreographed in social media it’s refreshing to see a life and words you can relate to, a glimpse of a life that resembles your own. That’s inspiration at its best…and it’s beautiful.

You can follow Melinda’s work on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

3. Pia Schiavo Campo

Pia Schiavo Campo is the glorious mind behind Chronicles of a Mixed Fat Chick. She’s a brilliant and outspoken writer, feminist and body image activist.

Pia’s writing is constantly inspiring a “Hell Yes!” out of me.

I decided that the only solution to loving my arms was to show them off more often. Though I knew I wasn’t going to feel sure of myself right away, I could certainly fake it for the time being. And that’s what I did. That experience made me realize that most people aren’t looking at me and they don’t give a rat’s ass what I’m wearing. After a summer of donning tanks and halter tops, I no longer had to fake my comfort. I was comfortable. For me the lesson is that I’m my own worst critic. When I can abandon perfectionism, even just for an hour, my whole world opens up. I become free. Free to love my arms and free to wear whatever the fuck I want.”  ―Pia Schiavo Campo

She’s inspiring and passionate, as a matter of fact it’s because of Pia’s passion for women’s issues that I’ve become more active and outspoken in feminism.

You can follow Pia’s work on her blog Chronicles of a Mixed Fat Chick, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

4. Vanessa Leigh

Vanessa Leigh is a cornucopia of awesomeness– she’s a kickass body image advocate, a Yogi, a ReFashion expert &  a headdress designer.

Vanessa is just pure light! She’s one of those people whose soul radiates into everything she does from her yoga to her writing.

Radical self love and self acceptance is my battle-cry for the year. My year of love begins with self. All of myself, just as I am with dark skin, big belly, large thighs, massive calved, fat, gap toothed nappy haired black woman. What’s not to love. Truly. LOVE all of myself. I have to radically love and accept the body I am in and that involves removing a lot of propaganda I’ve been force fed my entire life. This propaganda of an ideal body hurts us all. This propaganda can lead to low self esteem, self image and eating disorders. Replacing that propaganda with positive messages and actions is a daily struggle. One that brings me tears and joy. Today it makes me proud. #Proud2BMe.” ―Vanessa Leigh

You can follow Vanessa’s work on her blog Sweet Leigh, Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. To check out her confections drop by her Etsy store, Sweet Leigh.

5. Vivienne McMaster

Vivienne McMaster is a photographer and blogger. I discovered her work on Facebook and it was love at first sight. She blends photography and positive body image stunningly.

Vivienne teaches how to look at your body through the camera with a kind and loving eye. It’s a beautifully refreshing way to document your self-love journey. For those not too comfortable behind the camera she also offers photography workshops titled after her blog, “Be Your Own Beloved“.

You can follow Vivienne’s work on her blog Be Your Own Beloved, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

 6. Marie Southard Ospina

Marie Southard Ospina is a writer and body positive activist. Her writing appears on her blog Migg Mag and Bustle, where she’s the Associate Fashion & Beauty Editor.

Marie’s writing is powerful, but even her most passionate post carries and air of romanticism– like a lovely vintage novel. I love everything about her writing style, from the strength in her messages to the images used to accompany them.

It’s my personal belief that if we’re ever to see size acceptance and body positivity happen, the “unique” must be celebrated. All the things we’ve been told are “flaws” or “idiosyncrasies” need to metamorphose into beloved aspects of ourselves. The things that make us different need to also be perceived as the things that make us most beautiful. The freckles, the fat tummy, the chafing thighs, the big ears, the thin lips… all these things are stunning. And it’s about time we begin to live and breathe these words rather than post them flippantly online as inspo for our later selves.”     ―Marie Southard Ospina

You can follow Marie’s work on her blog Migg Mag, Facebook, TwitterInstagram and Bustle.

7. Virgie Tovar

Virgie Tovar when I say her name the first words that come to mind are feisty and outspoken. Virgie is a fat activist, sexologist, author and the brilliant mind behind the #LoseHateNotWeight movement.

Virgie’s candor is contagious.

Dieting taught me that life can wait, but as long as I was a “good girl” I could have all the things I wanted. Someday.
When I got tired of waiting, I learned that freedom is about eating what I want, wearing what I want, being what I want to be in the body I have. Today. No more obedience for me, girl. #LoseHateNotWeight”  ―Virgie Tovar

And although we are making small steps toward better body image messages and fat activism is more alive than ever in the media we still need outspoken women, loud women, women bigger than life, like Virgie, to walk the path with us and keep the fire alive.

You can follow Virgie’s work on her website, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Buzzfeed.

I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s post and hopefully you’ve received some inspiration from these amazing ladies. Until next time, my lovelies– remember to be kind and loving to yourselves and each other,


Art used in featured image for this post: “Bountiful One” by Shiloh Sophia McCloud


The Year Of The Mammogram

In February my primary doctor advised me that it was time to schedule my first mammogram. Although I’m quite a few months shy of 40, he suggested an early test to be proactive. I scheduled my exam for the following week. Now, whenever I’ve asked other women about the exam the consensus is “it’s a little uncomfortable.” Now I don’t know about you, but a “little uncomfortable” to me are jeans that are too tight or a pair of spanx. Having my boob squeezed and pressed like they were trying to squeeze juice from my nipples was a bit more than “uncomfortable” but I sucked it up since this is a life-saving exam…and at the end of the day, early detection could mean the difference between life and death.

When the mammogram results came back, my doctor told me that I needed a follow-up ultrasound– they found some lymph nodes and a two-inch lump. In order to soothe my already racing mind, he calmly explained to both me and the hubby (who went in with me to both appointments for moral support) that since this was my first mammogram, there were no photographs to compare. So they were unsure what the mass was and to be cautious they would have to do an ultrasound. Dr. Acosta referred me to The Breast Care Centers. If you’re in South Florida they have four locations, the closest one to me was in South Miami. So I called in for my appointment and off I went for my ultrasound.

One important tip, if you have a follow-up ultrasound at a different office than where you had your mammogram, get a CD copy of your mammogram photos. Why? Well, it gives the new doctor an idea of what she or he is looking for. It will save you a possible second visit and you’ll receive your results sooner.

I’m happy to share with you that after my second ultrasound they told me the lump is a node. Dr. Frost advised me that it’s benign, although I will have to go back in six months just to make sure that it hasn’t changed in size.

I’m sharing this with you because I want you to understand the importance of a mammogram. Early detection of breast cancer is life saving. So, if you have been dragging your feet or skipping out on your yearly exam– rectify that. Make your doctor’s appointment and get your breasts checked. If like me, this is your first year then I hope that reading my story makes you a little less nervous. And as far as the booby squeezing, it was painful for me, but I would do it all over again to make sure I was healthy.

I did find out that there are offices, like The Breast Care Centers, that offer 3D mammograms which offer a more detailed look at your breast tissues and layers providing your doctor a more thorough view of your breasts. Next year, that’s the route I will be taking for my yearly exam.

 Two important tips for breast health:


  • Self Check. Self Check. Self Check.

  • Do your yearly mammograms.

Whether it’s 2D or 3D mammograms, remember everyone’s experience is different. What is IMPORTANT and I can’t emphasize this enough my lovelies, is that you get your mammograms done. Chat with your primary doctor and/or your ob/gyn. If you turn 40 this year, you could most likely get it done prior to your actual birthday like I did. If like me, you had a rough first experience, don’t be afraid to switch up the office where you get them done. Just don’t stop doing it all together, even a painful mammogram is better than no mammogram.

 Until next time my lovelies– remember to be kind and loving to yourselves,



Links à la Mode | May 2015 Edition

 Links à la Mode is a collection of  blog posts, plus size news and overall things that have inspired me, moved me and made me smile this month.  Hope you enjoy them as much as I did — Love, Zadry

in Body Positive News…

How I Learned to Love My Body

by  Danielle Brooks, “Taystee” on Netflix’s Orange Is The New Black for Cosmopolitan Magazine

“Even now, I still find ways to make light of the sadness I was in back then. When I was interviewed for a magazine recently, I joked that when my mother would ask me to go for a walk around the neighborhood, I would hide behind the house because I was lazy. But the real reason I hid was because I didn’t want the boys in the neighborhood to laugh at the fat girl walking around the cul-de-sac..”

This International No Diet Day Photo Is Awesome So Here Are 7 Other Reasons You Should Never Have To Justify Eating

by Marie Southard Ospina

“The human relationship with food is a complex thing. In essence, we’re constantly made to feel guilty for eating. Or, in other words, for doing something that’s required for basic human survival. Of course, there are plenty of reasons for this. The diet industry is a multi-billion dollar corporation that thrives off of creating an often flawed product to make its consumer feel bad when they re-gain the weight, only to turn to — you guessed it — the diet industry. And we obviously live in a world that thinks “fat” is just about the worst thing a human can be, on par with things like sociopathy or hating puppies. So “logically,” being made to feel guilty about eating will make people less inclined to do things that make weight gain more probable. ”

That One Time I Had Liposuction and My Life Still Sucked

by Pia Schiavo-Campos, for Chronicles Of A Mixed Fat Chick

I have vaguely mentioned my liposuction surgery in other posts, but I’ve never really delved into it until now. When I was 23 I had 11 pounds of fat removed from my stomach, hips, and thighs. I had the surgery done in the Philippines, where my parents were working for two years. It was the summer of 1998, and I recall my father first mentioning to me how inexpensive it was to have plastic surgery done in Manila, and my heart skipped a beat at the thought of thin thighs. He kept hinting at it until I pressed him for more information on the procedure. I probably weighed around 230 pounds at that time, and my self-esteem was in the crapper (I weigh about the same now). I had zero self-love and I was desperate. I really just wanted to feel desirable and beautiful. And thin, of course.”

8 Reasons Why It’s OK To Not Love Your Body Sometimes, Even If You Support Body Positivity

by Erin Mckelle Fischer

“Since a lot of media puts out these shallow “love your body” messages without really understanding the words, there exists a kind of pressure to pretend that you’re not struggling with body image. The problem with this is that while it’s great that we’re collectively more encouraged to love ourselves, it often results in stigma associated with those of us who aren’t quite there yet. Not loving your body doesn’t make you a bad person or less worthy of respect, though, and is in fact perfectly legitimate — since we live in a culture still permeated with body shame. “

 A Love Letter to My Belly

by Vanessa Leigh, for Sweet Leigh

“Yoga has changed my relationship to my body. It has again, connected my sense of being and self to my body and spawned a body love and self acceptance journey. Other people’s shaming can’t compare to my own constant shaming of myself. That will never excuse the bullies out there. I learned that I wasn’t good enough from TV ads, and TV shows, teasing classmates and my well meaning parents, and strangers looking me up and down. The daily microaggressions. The weight loss equals happy life rhetoric became the nasty voice inside my own head beating me down. And its time to let it go. It’s not easy but it is time to reject the “well meaning critics”, the “concerned citizens” and just plain assholes. It’s time to rid myself of my own biases. For me radical self acceptance begins with my big belly. “

in Plus Size Fashion…

Island Vibes” Collection by Zelie for She

And then on the 1st day of May Zelie for She dropped some Island Vibes on us…and everything was irie. Available online in sizes XL-3X, some pieces available in OS.

 Swim by Grisel

From the fabulous & chic mind behind rebdolls— plus size model and designer Grisel launches her first swimsuit line…and it’s gorgeous! Oh yeah, each style is named after a Beyoncé song. Available online in sizes 0-28.


At the end of last month Cool Gal Blue announced two new curated collections for May. One from blogger Curveella and the other from my blogger babe Margot, from Margot Meanie. And my lovelies, it did not disappoint! Available online in sizes 12-22

Pool Side Collection” by Jibri

Not much to say here except Jasmine Elder knocked it out the ballpark with yet another beautiful Jibri collection. Partake in the beauty that is Jibri my lovelies and imagine yourselves by the pool in one of these confections with a margarita or strawberry daiquiri in your hands…enough said.

in the land of Visual Inspiration…

See y’all next month my lovelies!



Hey Virgo!

“When you think of Virgo, think too of the tiny flowers that grow wild on the side of the hill down the road, or the color of fields of heather after the fog rolls in.”


There’s something magical about zodiac signs. That way in which being born on a certain date, at a certain time, under a certain alignment of the stars can become an intricate part of your being… If you think about it, it’s like we’re celestial, or as my blogger babe Vanessa from Sweet Leigh says “we are stardust.”

I know not everyone is into the astrology. Heck, my hubby rolls his eyes every time his behavior brings on a “you’re such an Aries” statement. On the other hand, I find it fascinating, always have. And being a bonafide Latina I of course grew up watching Walter Mercado. Believe me when I tell you, NO ONE gives a horoscope like Walter. Until today, whenever anyone says “Virgo” I feel highly disappointed if it’s not pronounced in a dramatic tone, accompanied with elaborate hand gestures and my lucky number.

VIRGO…the sixth sign in the zodiac represented by the virgin, the hand maiden– that’s me. Born September 10 at 8:30 am and true to my sign, I’m:

“Charming, perfect, and intelligent, the Maiden seduces all that crosses her path, be it man, woman, or unicorn. The Virgoan woman is very discerning, a natural critic, and a sharp analyzer of everything and everyone. Highly intuitive, she has the ability to sense what is off-key about a person or situation, and hone in to this with intent to improve. Don’t take it personally, because Virgos only mean well. The Virgo woman in your life is liable to wave a magic hand over chaos, imposing a gentle, perfect order on your universe.” (via 

In a nutshell, I’m a kind and loving person that goes bat crazy if things are not in order–or at least in the order I feel they should be in. Chaos and spontaneity are no friends of mine, and while we’re on the topic, I wouldn’t say we’re “perfect,” but we’re pretty dang close.

Besides determining our traits and personality it was interesting to find out that our zodiac signs tend to guide the styles of clothing we’re drawn to. I’ll be honest, I’m all over the place when it comes to fashion, how I’m feeling at the moment dictates what I choose to wear.
I tend to be drawn to prints and colors I find inspiring or happy and I’m always most at home in flowing maxis and skirts, basically anything that feels light and airy. 

The Virgo fashionista values both, fashion and money. She doesn’t look for extra-ordinary styles to stand out from the crowd, instead she picks anything that pleases her mood and complements her overall personality. The Virgo woman loves to shop alone, as she is quite particular on giving painstaking attention to every detailing. (via 

Which is probably why I fell head over heals for this eshakti maxi dress. The long flowing skirt and intricate lace neckline in turquoise are the perfect marriage of bohemian and chic for a choosy Virgo like me.

This dress makes me want to be in a grassy meadow making flower crowns and picking wildflowers.

But like any good Virgo knows that inspired feeling only lasts for a short time. Hey! I’m not trying to get dirt on my feet or on my pretty new dress…just keeping it 100.


August 23 to September 22. Earth sign

Lucky Colors : Saffron Yellow and Azure Blue

Sense of Style :
“Usually something of a neat freak, but when it comes to fashion, you look your best in cool, boho togs (think: flowing maxi dresses, furry jackets).” (via

Famous Virgo Women :
Mother Teresa, Amy Poehler, Anne Bancroft, Greta Garbo, Beyoncé, Gloria Estefan, Pink, Cameron Diaz, Salma Hayek, Sophia Loren, Aisha Tyler, Caryl Churchill, Amy Winehouse

I hope you enjoyed today’s post. Until next time my lovelies and in the words of Walter Mercado “reciban mucha paz de mi pero sobre todo mucho, mucho, mucho amor” — Translation? receive a lot of peace from me but above all lots, and lots, and lots of love!


What I’m wearing: Claire’s Greenery Garland Headwrap | eShakti’s Embellished Tulle Bib Front Maxi Dress. Currently sold out, but find similar looks here.  

shop CALM

Hey my lovelies! You see the “SHOP Curves à la Mode” button right up there? Whenever you see it that means you can purchase any of the items featured in the post in our new Amazon eStore. All of my favorite things in one place!

Happy Shopping, ❤ Zadry G

For more zodiac fashion inspiration be sure to checkout my fellow Untamed Style blogger babes:



Veronica | CID STYLE FILE 




You see this little button right here, this was created by the lovely Veronica of Cid Style File, & the ultra fab Michelle of  Glitter In The Dirt (formerly of Zaftig Times). We’ve created a sisterhood of fierce femmes which also includes the amazing ladies behind Margot Meanie,Chronicles of a Mixed Fat Chick, Sweet Leigh & Curves Become Her. Every month we’ll take on a different topic/theme so be sure to stay tuned my lovelies!


Unconditional Body Beautiful: Part Five: MY DERRIÉRE

It’s been four fabulous months of Unconditional Body Beautiful. This month, the self-love journey continues. In this next installment we’re focusing on one of my favorite parts of the body– the onion, the badonkadonk, the nalgas, the booty. Yes, my lovelies, today we’re chatting derrière.

The derrière is one of the most popular body parts out there. If your body was high school, your derrière would be prom queen. It’s shapely curves have inspired artists (Botero), designers (Apple Bottoms) and musicians (Sir Mix-A-Lot, Destiny’s Child, Queen) to name just a few. But like most trendy love stories, you will see the focus jumps from big booty obsession à la Niki Minaj to small booty supermodel love à la Gisele Bündchen. In the end (see what I did there?) what matters is not what’s “in” when it comes to the latest booty trend, but that you love the booty you were given– regardless of its size or shape.

“Cultivate your curves – they may be dangerous but they won’t be avoided.” ― Mae West

 My booty has never and will never be small. It’s voluminous presence is a gift from my African heritage.

When I was younger I was embarrassed by the size of my booty because of the unwanted attention it received. For me, it took some time to get comfortable with the maturing of my body from little girl to young woman. I was actually quite embarrassed by the looks and comments received by my developing curves. I didn’t gain an appreciation for my derrière until I was in college.

Although the appreciation was now there, the realities of “big booty problems” became clear. What big booty problems you ask? Well, how about trying on the same skirt with a girlfriend only to discover the fit of your skirt was “off” in the back because it was raised several inches than the front due to your voluminous derriere. Or never getting a perfect size jean fit. Fits your hips and booty just right, but it’s about 3 sizes too big on the waist– thank goodness for boyfriend jeans and good tailors. And the catcalling, *insert major side eye here* I live with my big booty 24/7 therefore I don’t need to be reminded of how monumental it is or certainly not be told of its “juiciness” — it’s my body you’re talking about not a damn burger! Keep walking.

But pervy catcallers aside, I have great appreciation for the curves my derrière bestows on my body. I love the way dresses skim its silhouette and the way a great pair of jeans/pants sit just right and embrace its majestic shape– like a queen on her throne. It’s by far one of my greatest and favorite assets.

So, no matter how big, small or in-between your derrière is, it’s time to embrace it because regardless of how it’s portrayed in the media, it’s part of your body, not a fashion accessory or a trend. And don’t preoccupy yourself with fitting into society’s mold, because molds are meant to be broken. Until next time, my lovelies– remember to be kind and loving to yourselves and each other,


Unconditional Body Beautiful is a self-love series created by Rebequita Rose“It is a year-long collaboration which I created-slash-founded, and I will be doing this with many other bloggers…We will focus mostly on discussing our bodies more than on fashion, but at the same time we will fuse the two together.”


On the 18th of every month we will each publish a new post discussing that month’s theme (body part), so be sure to keep an eye out for the hashtag on social media for some wonderful posts and body love inspiration.
 For more #UnconditionalBodyBeautiful inspiration be sure to check out these wonderful blogs:

Are You Beach Body Ready?

Every year before summer starts we’re bombarded with “are you beach ready?” messages. And it’s always the same tactic —

Winter’s gone. Let us body shame you so that you can buy our “miracle” product that will sculpt and mold you into an unattainable version of your body. But hey, if you fail and don’t look like our (most likely photo-shopped) version of the ideal woman/man then it’s your fault. You’re the failure because our products work.

Well, guess what? It’s not you, it’s these fad diet programs and companies trying to make a buck out of chipping away at your self-esteem. The more you think you need “work” the more money you spend on their crap. And the more you buy, the more money they make.

Now I’m all for self-improvement, but at your own pace and in a healthy manner both mental and physical. Take it from a woman who has fad dieted and yo-yo’d most of her life. Fad diets DO NOT work. They aren’t about creating a better, happier, healthier you– it’s about mass marketing insecurities and exploiting them. After all, the same people who create these ridiculous standards of beauty are the ones telling us we don’t fit in their “perfect” standards unless we buy their products.

The truth is, even the strongest of us, the most involved in this positive body image movement have days when we are hard on our bodies.

When I put on my swimsuit for the first time this season, I stood in front of my bedroom mirror and nit picked every single dimple, wrinkle, lump. Five minutes into my internal rant I realized what I was doing to myself and I forced myself to stop. You see, years of body degradation are hard to erase. Yes they can be overcome and we can live happy in the body we are in, but our minds have been so exposed to these ads and marketing campaigns that part of us thinks this is the only way to exist. And that’s not true. It’s so far from the truth my lovelies.

You see, life is fleeting and part of existing in this life is living it. Not locked away hating yourself or your body. And I know it’s easier said than done, especially in today’s social media age. Everywhere you look everyone seems to be filtered to perfection. Even being plus size feels like it comes with standards sometimes. Am I the right kind of fatty? Are my curves the right kind of curves?– Well, you know what? Yes!

You may be in  the exact place you want to be with your body, you might be in the middle or even the beginning of your journey. But you’re here and that, my loves, makes you the right kind of everything.  So are you beach/summer/life ready? Yes you are! And don’t let any company, person, or even yourself tell you or make you feel otherwise.

Now go out there and kick summer’s ass! Until next time my lovelies,


VivaMexico curves a la mode

Viva Mexico!

Earlier this week two girlfriends and I decided to take time out of the daily work grind and go on a “Grown-up Spring Break” to Cancun, México. We booked our room at the lovely all-inclusive resort Royal Solaris, packed our bags, grabbed our passports and headed out for some well deserved r&r.

Day 1

We arrived in Cancun around 9 am so we had plenty of time to enjoy our first day. After checking in, looking around our room and drooling over the breathtaking views of the Caribbean sea we threw on our swimsuits and headed downstairs for lunch and some fun in the sun.

It was a gorgeous Mexican day. The temperature was in the mid 80s , it was sunny and breezy– you couldn’t have asked for better weather. So, after our yummy lunch we headed poolside and got our sun on!

We started out on the pool chairs and eventually found our way into the swim-up bar, because when in México…tequila is always on the menu. Now I don’t know if it was the tequila or “Danza Kuduro” that enticed us, but we ended up in a very fun water aerobics class that led to a lot of laughing and some very sore muscles the next day.

Later that night, after some warm soothing showers and a nap we dolled ourselves up and headed downstairs to grab dinner and check out the moon dance performance. It was magical to see the dancers dressed in Aztec costumes dancing on the beach as the sun set behind them.

Day 2

The second day started out with breakfast and a quick trip into town for some souvenir shopping. We went to nearby, Plaza Caracol and picked up some goodies to take back home. It was a quick bus trip, about 15 minutes each way. The buses in the hotel zone run frequently so we barely waited 5 minutes for each bus.  After a little wallet exercise we returned to the hotel and the rest of the day went pretty much the same as the first: sun, sand, water and lots of laughter.

After spending the day being rejuvenated  by the sea we returned to the room and dolled ourselves up again for our last night in México. We had a nice dinner, followed by a little wine and some dessert– not necessarily in  that order, and when it comes to the wine definitely not just the one glass. We decided to skip the show and go back to the room to pack since we had to be up by 5 am for our 620 am pick up the next day. After the packing was done we sat on our beds and watched a movie together–with some wine of course. It was a wonderful end to a fantastic mini getaway.

This was our first official trip together, but it will definitely not be our last. We spent the entire trip chatting, laughing and just acting a fool. It was refreshing to spend time away with my girls being free and enjoying their company. Female friendships are important for our growth and the nourishment of our souls. So make some free time with your tribe this weekend and take a plane ride somewhere, anywhere or a simple road trip together. Recharge your batteries and enjoy each other’s company.

Be sure to scroll down for today’s travel tip and to check out some more photos of our “Grown-Up Spring Break” getaway. Until next time my lovelies & remember to make it a wanderful life,


Travel Tip:

The key ingredient to enjoying your time away with friends is leaving the drama at home after all getaways and vacations are about relaxation, exploration and sharing those memories with the people traveling with you. So when you find a group of friends you travel well with cherish them and see the world together.

“Viva México!” in photos:

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